AUTHOR・SPEAKER・COACH・CELEBRANT
Change From the Inside-Out
Coaching, courses, and writing that help you understand your patterns — and change them from the inside-out.
A simple, evidence-informed reflection that helps you understand your patterns — without judgement and without labels.
Coaching
Coaching for individuals or partners dealing with addictive patterns. Understand what drives the behaviour, manage the stress, & learn new responses from the inside-out.
Courses
Self-paced programs built on the Inside-Out Recovery Model to help you shift patterns and rebuild connection - with yourself, others and your purpose.
Writing
Thought pieces, blog, and upcoming book, Stuck on Repeat, on why we keep repeating the same patterns in life, love and work - and how to change it.
Weddings
Ceremonies that reflect authenticity, connection and story - without the clichés. Also, pre-marriage counselling to help you prepare for life after your wedding.
The Inside-Out Recovery Model™
The Inside-Out Recovery Model™ is the backbone of my work.
It helps people understand why patterns form — and how real change happens.
It rests on three simple truths:
Identity • Behaviour • Outcome
Patterns don’t appear out of nowhere. They grow from how we see ourselves and what we believe we deserve.
Love • Worth • Belonging
At the core of every struggle is a need — to feel valued, connected, and safe to be ourselves.
Awareness • Pause • Reconnect • Integrate
Small daily movements that shift your life from the inside-out — practical habits that help change take root.
Download The Inside-Out Recovery Model™ Info Sheet
Is Addiction Ruining Your Relationship?
This will give you some insight into the When Addiction Comes Home course
This video is from my archives, and gives a clear picture of how I work with couples affected by addictive behaviours — and why connection, not control, sits at the heart of recovery.
Who I Help
Most people who work with me are tired of repeating the same patterns — and ready for something different.
This is for you if ...
You’re in a relationship where addictive behaviours are taking a toll — whether it’s your partner’s, your own, or both.
You feel weighed down by the consequences of your past choices and want a different way forward.
You and your partner are stuck in the same conflict patterns — fighting, withdrawing, or circling back to the same issues again and again.
You’re drifting apart through silence, routine, or boredom, and you want to reconnect.
You’re newly married and want to set up strong communication and connection habits early on.
You’re someone who knows deep down that life can’t stay as it is — and you’re ready for that “aha” moment to shift the story
Not Sure Where to Begin?
Take the 3-minute reflection that helps you see where you sit on the Inside-Out Addiction Continuum. Not a diagnosis — just clarity.
- Waitlist
When Addiction Comes Home
- Course
- 1 Lesson
When Addiction Comes Home is a six-session online course for partners living with the impact of addictive behaviours.
It offers a practical way to understand what’s really happening beneath the surface — the patterns, the shame, the disconnection — and how they affect your relationship. Each session blends real insight with self-reflection to help you move from reacting to responding, from exhaustion to hope, and from isolation to genuine connection.
This isn’t about blame or fixing someone else. It’s about coming home to yourself, finding your footing, and learning how to rebuild trust and communication from the inside out.
- $220
Coaching Session
- Coaching session
Simon Says Blog Posts
Thoughts and conversations that help you live more honestly, connect more deeply, and understand your inner world.
Why Change Can Feel Impossible
When Addiction Enters Your Relationship
The Hidden Cost of Shame
Are You Getting Married?
Ceremonies shaped with honesty, personality, and a sense of what really matters.
Your wedding ceremony should feel like you — real, meaningful, personal, fun and free from awkward scripts or forced moments. As a registered celebrant, I work with couples to design ceremonies that are unique, honest, and genuinely reflective of who you are and what matters to you.
I don’t use templates. I get to know you both, hear your story, and help you shape a ceremony that feels natural, heartfelt, and memorable for the right reasons. You’ll have space to be yourselves, room to laugh and connect, and a ceremony that sets the tone for the rest of the day.
What’s Included
Custom-designed ceremony
Up to 4 meetings leading up to your wedding day
Guidance with vows, structure, and tone
All legal paperwork handled
Travel included within 100km of Mornington
Anything beyond that distance may incur an additional fee
Weddings
I’ve been creating wedding ceremonies since 1997, and I know what makes one really meaningful — it has to reflect the uniqueness of the couple. Healthy relationships are important to me and this is reflected in the wedding.
Pre-Marriage Counselling
Learn to understand yourselves better and build practical habits that strengthen your relationship. Using tools such as Prepare and the Gottman's Relationship Check-Up you gain helpful insight into your relationship.
After the Wedding Course
A 6-session course you and your partner can do at your own pace, designed to guide you through conversations that help build a strong marriage. (Available online from May 2026)
Hi! I'm Simon.
AUTHOR・SPEAKER・COACH・CELEBRANT
I’ve spent more than twenty years helping people deal with addictive behaviours, relationship struggles, and the patterns that keep life stuck on repeat. I’ve learned a lot along the way - what helps, what doesn’t, and all of it has shaped what became the Inside-Out Recovery Model. I genuinely believe it’s a game-changer for anyone wanting real, human change.
Away from the work, I’ve been married for over thirty years to an incredible woman, and we have two great sons, a wonderful daughter-in-law, and a grandson who lights up our world. Family means everything to me - including our dogs, Russell (a Jack Russell with far too much personality) and Ruby (a mischievous little Corgi)
I’m a coffee snob, I laugh loudly, I love British comedy, quirky films, and getting lost in a good book. Mostly, I care deeply about people and their stories. I’m completely non-judgemental. I’ve been through enough to know there’s always more going on under the surface than what we first see.
I hope our paths cross at some point, and that you’re able to find a way through whatever you’re dealing with right now.