For partners of people experiencing addiction, who are feeling isolated, burnt out, confused, or unsure how to help without losing themselves.
6 Core Video Sessions (10–15 mins each)
Downloadable Workbook (Session-linked exercises)
Reflection Prompts & Optional “Change Experiments”
Bonus Mini Meditations and Conversation Starters
Session 1: “The House on Fire”
Theme: Understanding addiction and its effect on your relationship.
Key Topics:
Addiction as a relationship disruptor, not just a personal failing
The Cycle of Addiction: craving, acting out, relief, shame, secrecy
How partners get hooked into the same cycle
Debunking myths — “If they loved me, they’d stop”
Boundaries as clarity, not control
Mapping your current landscape of disconnection
Workbook Tools:
Relationship Disruption Map
My Emotional Weather Report
What I Know vs. What I Assume
Session 2: “Shame in the Walls”
Theme: How shame silently drives reactions, disconnection, and despair
Key Topics:
How shame manifests in both partners
The difference between guilt and shame
Why shame makes us reactive, not reflective
How hiding, fixing, or blaming keeps shame alive
Using compassion as a boundary, not a bypass
Transforming “toxic soil” into ground where connection can grow
Workbook Tools:
Shame Triggers Worksheet
Self-Talk Reality Check
What Would I Say to a Friend? Exercise
Soil Sample Check Reflection
Session 3: “A Touch of Codependency”
Theme: Recognising when care becomes controll
Key Topics:
Codependency without the labels or shame
From responsibility for to responsibility to
Emotional cost of crisis management
The rescuing trap: enabling ≠ loving
Building space between stimulus and response
Introducing the Calm & Safety Plan for High-Risk Moments
Workbook Tools:
Am I Overfunctioning? Quiz
My Rescue Radar
Micro-Boundaries That Honour Me
Calm & Safety Plan for High-Risk Moments
Session 4: “Healthy Responses for Messy Realities”
Theme: Responding without losing yourself.
Key Topics:
From reaction to response
The 3-Step Communication Framework
Using Nonviolent Communication (NVC) naturally
Scripts & strategies for tough moments
Common scenarios: denial, blame, gaslighting, minimising
What’s My Work vs. Their Work — relational boundaries in action
Workbook Tools:
3-Step Communication Framework
Pause Before Reacting Strategy
What’s My Work vs. Their Work? Boundary Chart
Scripts for Unhealthy and Healthy Responses
Session 5: “Come Home to Yourself”
Theme: Rebuilding inner safety through self-care and self-trust.
Key Topics:
Why self-care is system repair, not selfishness
Signs of self-abandonment
The Four Rhythms of Reconnection: Awareness, Acceptance, Alignment, Appreciation
Reconnecting with body, rest, and rhythm
Tiny rituals of calm in chaos
Reclaiming Joy: Moments That Make Me Feel Alive
Workbook Tools:
Daily Check-In Journal
My Compassion Inventory
The 5-Minute Reset Plan
The Four Rhythms of Reconnection Worksheet
Session 6: “Can We Rebuild This?”
Theme: Trust, communication, and rebuilding connection.
Key Topics:
Can trust be rebuilt — and how do we know?
The myth of “they must fix themselves first”
Balancing accountability with empathy
Communicating needs without escalation
Repairing intimacy and emotional safety
When staying is growth — and when leaving is love
Workbook Tools:
My Trust Readiness Checklist
Rebuilding Trust: What I Need
Relationship Vision Reflection